There are certain things that can be too personal, sensitive, or potentially harmful to share with others.

Here are 10 things you might want to keep to yourself or share only with someone you trust deeply:

1. Your deepest insecurities – Sharing too much about what makes you feel vulnerable can sometimes be used against you, especially in situations where trust is fragile.
   
2. Financial troubles – While it can be important to discuss financial struggles with someone you trust, revealing too many details to people who aren’t close can invite judgment or unwanted advice.
   
3. Embarrassing mistakes from your past – While everyone has a history, some past events are better left unspoken, especially if they don’t affect your present.
   
4. Gossip about others – Speaking badly about others can damage relationships, make you seem untrustworthy, and create drama. It’s better to focus on what’s constructive.
   
5. Your darkest thoughts or violent impulses – Even if you’re struggling with darker feelings, it’s crucial to reach out to professionals for support, rather than disclosing them casually to friends or family, which might alarm or worry them.
   
6. Unsolicited personal judgments – It’s one thing to voice your opinion, but telling someone what they should or shouldn’t do with their life—especially in a harsh way—can be damaging.
   
7. Your plans for a future job, project, invention, etc. – Keep these items to yourself until they come to fruition. There are many who may want to get in the way of your future and plans. Just keep it all to yourself until it can be revealed when all is realized.
   
8. Your romantic feelings for someone else (if you’re in a relationship) – Revealing infidelity or attraction to someone outside your relationship can cause significant harm to both parties and is often better dealt with privately or in therapy.
   
9. Your plans for revenge or anger – If you’re feeling wronged, venting in an unhealthy way can lead to negative consequences. It’s better to seek resolution or counseling rather than plotting anything out of anger.
   
10. Too many details about your relationship – Over-sharing personal issues about your romantic relationship with others can create misunderstandings, breed jealousy, and put unnecessary strain on your relationship.

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